I’m fond of a play partner who knows how to flatter with a well-selected gift.  If you’d like to offer a token of your appreciation, consider the items on this list, several of which you can send virtually. If you donate to one of the organizations below, make sure to notify me via email so I can thank you!

• A box of milk or dark chocolates, with orange rind, sea salt, or caramel
• A bottle of Cabernet Sauvignon, Pinot Grigio, cognac, or silver tequila
• A bouquet of tulips, sunflowers or hydrangeas
• A donation to a nonprofit working on an underfunded cause that is close to my heart: the Lysistrata mutual aid fund (for sex workers), the Sylvia Rivera Law Project (for trans and gender diverse people),  or Make the Road New York (for immigrants of color).
• An e-gift certificate to my my favorite BDSM shop, Purple Passion, or my favorite local spa, World Spa
• The most versatile gift: cash. You can tip in person (preferred) or via CashApp, just ask. (I only give out my handle privately to prevent scammers from adopting similar sounding ones.)